When we see someone at the top of their game, whether it is a sports star, a political leader or a business icon, we imagine that this person was born with all of the natural skills and qualities to lead. This is hardly ever the case. Instead we are seeing the result of long process of honing a set of skills until the person is an expert in executing them. Along the way, the person came up against and got past failures and disappointments that ultimately strengthened him or her and helped create the leader you see in front of…